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[unleashedknight]

Help. Im very shy and i dont really talk to alot of people and i have a low self esteem. I will do anything to make new friends. Can you guys please tell me, i wont act shy and ill raise my self esteem... please. PLEASE HALP MEH!

[Nintendustin]

Be yourself. As a teacher, I know it can be tough. I see it all the time. Just. Be. Yourself.

[WisdomPowerCourage]

If you here someone mention something your interested in, SPEAK UP! It's how I met my best friend. My voice is naturally quiet and I don't talk much so people think I'm shy and don't talk to me much, but you should speak up in conversations and if you talk to someone once try to talk to them the next day, also I would recommend joining a club so you are around people with similar interests. Without marching band, I wouldn't have as close to as many friends as I do.

[Ixchel]

Find the other dorky/shy kids and be friends with them. It's what I do. xD If you really want to you may be able to branch out of the group since there's always one kid who's less shy in the group and knows others.

Or if you find you're in multiple classes with the same group of kids (honors classes etc) it may be good to try and say hi, find something in common, etc. My whole time at highschool I knew the same 30ish kids on a name/face basis because we shared honors classes. Usually if you try and start a conversation about something in common the person won't be a jerk... unless they're a jerk. Then not worth knowing anyways. Either that or they're cranky lmao.

[BanjoKazooie]

Dont try to make friends right off the bat, believe me. Sit back for a week or 2 and just listen to people talk and find what click is best fit for you personality and you should fit right in don't change to fit a group, that leads to bad things...

[Nintendustin]

Dont try to make friends right off the bat, believe me. Sit back for a week or 2 and just listen to people talk and find what click is best fit for you personality and you should fit right in don't change to fit a group, that leads to bad things...

That is good advice.

[-JJ-]

if you are a quiet person, it's perfectly fine if you don't have many friends. If you want to try and make some, that's great! But keep in mind you don't HAVE to have a ton of friends. Find people who like you for who you are and that you get along with. Maybe there are some at ur school who also like video games. Maybe you could all get together sometime and play games

[Crackkat]

two things!!!
Be confident!!!! this does not mean be aggressive/assertive, it simply means confident.
Be kind, people love a nice guy, they can't bring it upon themselves to hate a polite positive person. if you're nice and NOT confident at the same time yoou will appear vulnerable and will get picked on.
As for making friends, jump into conversations you can relate to, dont start a random conversation with a random person about a particular hobby like gaming or something. just wait until you find someone talk about it first, then jump in.
Be a yes man!! say yes if you're offered something (as long as its not drugs XP) i mean like if you're invited to play football, just play, even if you suck, they prefer you play than shy away.
Best of luck to ya bro!!!

[Lord N]

I don't have great advice in making friends, because all my friends found me. If you voice your opinions and stand by them, sure you can be ridiculed but better yet you might even get respected. I read someone said to lay low and observe and that's great advice, just don't be creepy about it. 9 out of 10 times, if you have something to contribute to a discussion, you usually end up benefiting from the experience. See what other kids are into and jump in. Many kids in this situation end up developing friendships that withstand the test of time. Good luck...If you need anything, the forum here has your back friend .

[Alianjaro]

Don't walk in the school thinking: "I MUST MAKE FRIENDS". Just think you're gonna have a good time and answer to people when they talk to you very clearly, without overloading your brain with "I MUST NOT LOOK AWKWARD". This is how you screw things up. Oh and to help, listen to these tunes:





Reggae and house music. Chillax dude.

Hope it works for you. It did with girls in my school.

[Expansion Pak]

I have the same exact personality bro. Just lay low for a bit and then if you hear someone talking about something that you like join in the conversation. Hopefully you will find people that enjoy your company and like you for who you are.

[Press]

FInd people interested in the same thing as you. Don't be a poser. Like others have said, be yourself. You actually don't need to make friends half the time. Sometimes, people make YOU their friends.

[Mitch]

First go to the local Deli... any deli should suffice..

Next purchase a 14 inch polish Kielbasa

Then Duct tape your newly acquired Polish Kielbasa to your right upper thigh


BOOM instant success with friends

[gregoryorizal]

I don't know. My current group of actual friends kind of found me. I was alone for a few days and I just ease dropped on the group behind me and they were talking about anime and video games. I was to shy to talk to them though so I started doodling some Bleach doodles. I positioned myself to where they would notice and they did. So we started talking and the rest is history. Maybe you could do something like that ?

[Soul]

DO NOT BE QUIET. I'm a new student to I'm was quiet the first day and had no friends then I started talking and now I have many friends.

[Noonabites]

I agree with those who said try not to be shy. Honestly, most friendships just naturally happen, but it helps if you put yourself forward, but in a way that isn't "loud" or not you... But don't take my advice.. I'm looking for friends myself...

Can someone help me out with a forever alone face?

[Tricky Sonic]

Friendships and relationships should never be forced. They will always happen naturally and with like minded kin. All my friends have things in common with me..most of them became friends from simple things like.. "hey..I love your Trigun shirt! " and then once a common interest is found It's easy to grow from It. It will just happen.

I met my gf, Sushi for those who know her ,at my last job. We Were both PC repair technicians and our common interests brought us closer together. Opposites attract is BULL. If you have no common interests how can any friendship or relationship thrive? They cant.

[Auzzie Wingman]

If there's an event going on, stick your hand up.

If people see you are willing to participate, people are going to notice you and want to socialise with you.

[WisdomPowerCourage]

I met my best friend when I told some random kid that I liked sushi.

[Tricky Sonic]

I met my best friend when I told some random kid that I liked sushi.

Perfect example of How these things just happen